Reach Out: It’s OK to Need Support

The truth is, we can’t do all of this alone.

It is ok for you to need to reach out: to a friend, to a family member, to this site, to another professional, to a higher power, to a psychologist, to me, to another reader, to anyone. It is ok. In fact it is brave.

We get it wrong on what strength means. In fact, that is what eating disorders are: mistaken strength and control.

With eating disorders, we think control and obsession and restriction is strength, but it is actually our highlighted weakness and fears.

Same thing with anything else in life. We think forging forward, staying quiet, pretending everything is ok, punishing ourselves, and trying to make it alone are signs of strength. They are not. They are signs of fear.

Vulnerability is strength.

Asking for help is brave.

Admitting imperfection, needs, fears, struggles, crazy thoughts, dreams, frustrations, asking questions: these things are good. These things are strong. These things are brave.

Here Are Some Ways To Reach Out or Get Support:

CALL TO ACTION: Choose one of these things below today and take action.

Tell a friend or family member what you are going through. Reach out to someone close to you and let them know what is going on. They may not fully understand, but it is freeing to be honest about where your mind has been and the struggles you are working through.

Tell someone who you know has gone through this before. Reach out to anyone in your life who has openly battled with food craziness. Get their perspective. Tell them where you are struggling.

Get my workbookJump in and make a commitment to do exercises that will force you to go deep into your fears, hidden desires, and dreams. It will change your relationship with food, your body, and your life.

Find an accountability partner. Find someone, on this site, on another site, or anywhere else in your life- who you can talk to every week and confess how well you have done with your goals (eating and otherwise). I do this with business goals, but anyone could do this for mental or eating goals.

See a professional. If this is something you can handle on your own, see someone who can help you (a psychologist… not a nutritionist). Just make sure their beliefs for your recovery are in line with what you want out of life: freedom.

Contact MeI am always happy to hear your story for free, and often have time to quickly respond. I also offer email coaching to go more in depth.

Write a prayer to the universe, god, higher power, life, your body. It doesn’t matter what you believe in. Ask for help. Tell the world what you want for yourself. Say what you need help with. Describe the freedom you want to feel. Affirm what you believe is possible for your life and relationship with food. (I just found an old letter that I wrote in a journal to “Dear God” YEARS ago all about wanting to be free with food. But it is amazing how many of my dreams came true.)

Take Action. Choose one option above and do it TODAY

Then write your action step below in the comments!

Be kind to yourself.

Fuck it.