You Can’t Keep Politics Out Of It

I denounce Trump and everything he stands for.

When I became vocal about this on the Fuck It Diet platform last November, it resonated with many, but pissed off lots of people too, and I lost lots of followers.

They told me to keep politics out of it. They just wanted to heal their food issues, why did I have to alienate them by talking about Trump and taking a side?

But see, you can’t keep politics out of it. You must see the connection if you want to heal your food stuff. Your food stuff is not merely about food, it is connected to a big wide web of societal beliefs and structures and prejudices and cruelties, turning you against yourself.

It is about the way you have been taught to see your worth as it stands up against the cultural beauty ideal – thin and white.

We are talking about a man who owned Miss USA, who talked about women as if they are meat, bragged about sexual assault, then said that the women were to ugly to sexually assault. He insults people for being fat, actively incites fear of the other, and has about as much racial sensitivity as Michael Scott from The Office, with none of the charm or willingness to improve.

We have raised up a man who seems to have no genuine empathy and shows absolutely no remorse.

Don’t tell me this has nothing to do with our relationship to bodies (and by proxy, food). This has everything to do with everything. These are all parts of the cultural piece that keep us hating our bodies, and afraid of being ostracized and insulted for what we look like, and who we are.

Social justice and the way women’s bodies and fat bodies are treated, intersects with the way race, class, and gender are treated. Body politics and the fuck it diet are both political. They just are.

And recently Neo-Nazis and the KKK, marched without hoods. One of them killed and injured peaceful counter-protesters.

These are hate groups and terrorists, chanting racial slurs, oblivious of their deep privilege, mad with rage and hatred against the minority groups they fear will replace them. Or whatever makes a nazi a nazi and a KKK member a KKK member. Pure evil maybe. Or deep displaced understanding of how happiness and the world works. I try to understand, and I fail to.

I am not an expert on racism in the USA. Not even close. But I see the connection between body politics and race politics and feminism. They overlap, they affect each other, and they are very real and hold a great deal of weight as we go forward – no fuckin’ pun intended. I never intend puns.

You can’t keep politics out of it. Normalizing your relationship to food is body politics. And the way our president and his buds talk (and act) matters.

And it has everything to do with everything.

Episode 34: Emotional Eating n’ Stuff

We talk emotional eating. We talk cult leaders. We talk why no one knows everything. And we talk about Yoga Sleep: yoga nidra. And rest rest rest. It’s a short one today. But more coming soon! Get in on the podcast insider stuff at patreon.com/carolinedooner

Good Teacher vs. Cult Leader

TFID has always been strictly anti-dogma.

“Dogma: A principle or set of principles laid down by an authority as incontrovertibly true.”

Both religions and diets have the danger of becoming dogmatic and cult-like.

And the thing about cult energy, is that you often don’t know it’s happening until you’ve already spent… a shit ton of money and depleted yourself of lots of time and energy and self-esteem.

So… how do you tell the difference between a good teacher and a cult?

Here are some sure signs your teacher or group is cult-y:

– ​​​​​​​WE KNOW THE ONE TRUE WAY. THEY DON’T
– the teacher makes you believe you need them and that you will be lost without them
– the teacher or teaching holds all the answers and is the ultimate authority
– you are not allowed to question the work or teaching​​​​​​​
– your own authority or wisdom is ignored and the rules are set out for you

For instance, the first energy work teacher I studied with started to have a cult like energy. “I can’t explain to you why we do it this way. It’s just the way it is and if you ask me about it I am going to make you feel like you are just too small and inexperienced to know the answers. But maybe I’ll hold another training where I’ll tell you more secrets.”

WTF. No.

I distanced myself with her and her work as soon as I realized this was happening.

A good teacher will empower you, add to your knowledge, acknowledge they don’t have the answer to everything, and let you disagree or walk away when the work doesn’t resonate or isn’t needed anymore.

A good teacher knows that what they have to offer is valuable, but is not concerned with being the be-all end-all, and that their own teaching is not the only truth out there.

Basically, cult leaders abuse power and claim to have all the answers, good teachers give you the tools to lead your own way.​​​​​​​
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Diets are often super dogmatic and cult-y. We know the way. Follow us. Trust us. Our truth is THE truth.

It’s dangerous.

TFID has always been about becoming your own guru, and over the past few years, the intuition intensive has become my way to take students much deeper into their own wisdom.

​​​My goal is to always lead you back into your body where your wisdom is, and hand you back the reins.

Here is to lots of freedom, and no cults.