i reject all your rules

i reject your shoulds, your structure, your guilt,

i reject all the things that made me feel like I wasn’t ‘doing life right’.

my freedom came when I realized that success is not what i thought it was.

prestige is hollow.

success isn’t praise or fame,

it is peace and space and joy.

so i reject all your rules.

i reject all your steps to happiness.

i reject your shoulds, your fake smiles, your martyrdom,

i reject the rat race.

i reject it all.

i have depleted myself for too long.

and i will not play your game anymore.

We think that the cause of our issues with food is the actual food.

It’s not.

We think we are either food addicts – or orthorexics – or binge eaters – or compulsive – or have no will power, etc, etc, etc.

That’s not the cause of any of it.

The root of our food issues is actually body issues.

The root is actually our belief that our body is wrong and ugly and needs to be changed.

And the root of our body issues – for the most part – is cultural.

What have we learned about our bodies from the media, advertising campaigns, a 20 billion dollar diet industry, and a biased health care system that is very often funded by drug and diet companies? What have those deeply ingrained systems, that count on your insecurity in order to profit, what have they taught your mothers and grandmothers? What have they taught your friends? What have your grandmothers and mothers and friends and doctors taught you?

We are taught to be deeply fat-phobic – and based on lots of fear mongering and fallacies.

Most of us don’t even know we are fat-phobic – it just is. It feels like a fact that weight and fat is bad and ugly.

It is not a fact. It is learned, and it needs to be unlearned.

Ideally we unlearn it as a society, but that starts with us, individually.

This is why trying to heal your food issues without tackling your extreme feelings about your body will fall short. You must change the way you see weight, fat, and beauty, or you will be stuck in an insecure hell with funky and reactive eating for the rest of your life.

You can’t completely heal your food issues without becoming body positive, and healing your body image.

That is what is underneath the food stuff: Body Stuff. Cultural Body Stuff.

Our moms and grandmoms and friends know not what they do, but we have to be the ones to stop it.

Wait. Before you get nervous! You will still eat what you want for the rest of your life!

But I’ve recently realized that the purpose of The Fuck It Diet is to be a healing incubator.

It may be rebellious, it may be encouraging you to break the rules and fuck the system, but the purpose of all that is to support you in a healing incubator so you can become truly easy and trusting with food.

The application of the Fuck It Diet, and every scary thing you experience in it, is a temporary healing phase that lasts 1-2 years (it may happen faster than that). But if you let it really do its thing, the result is easy, free, intuitive eating.

I think The Fuck It Diet (or anything that truly takes the judgement off of food and weight) is the only way to get to true, intuitive eating. Instead of leaving you stuck in bastardized pseudo-diet intuitive eating.

The Fuck It Diet is the medicine, and easy eating is the result.

This is what happens in the healing incubator that is the Fuck It Diet:

This is a space to completely eliminate physical restriction. You must eat a lot in order to heal your body and fix your metabolism (which in turn helps stabilize your appetite.)

This is the place to learn that if you are bingeing, it is cause by restriction. End of story.

This is the place to become really, really aware of mental restriction.

This is a space to neutralize food, and learn that judging food just perpetuates mental restriction.

This is a place to learn that any stress or guilt over food is mental restriction, and needs to be let go.

This is time to learn body positivity.

This is the place to learn how much our collective weight bias is affecting our happiness and our eating.

This is the place to undo all of our limiting beliefs about weight, health, and worth by reading and doing research on Health at Every Size.

This is the place to learn that our standards of beauty are absurd and anti-feminist.

This is the place to understand that our fears about weight and beauty are actually the cause of our fears about food, and ignoring your relationship to weight will leave you stuck.

This is the very start of understanding that any misery and anxiety comes from assuming you are doing life wrong. The Fuck It Diet is just the beginning of showing you that all those “shoulds” ??? They are fucking with your happiness.

And therefore, this is the beginning of existential rest. (#REST #TWOYEARSOFREST)

This is the beginning of a way more awesome and powerful life.

During the The Fuck It Diet healing incubator, you’re gonna experience all of the stress and fear and old shit that has kept you stuck. The purpose of The Fuck It Diet is to empower you through the scariness, the eating, the weight gain and stabilization, and teach you to trust that you are a wise, magical powerbossbitch.

The other side is a place where your metabolism is fed and normal, you are not afraid of food, you don’t fixate on food anymore, and eating is just… easy.

On the other side of the Fuck It Diet is the Fuck It Life. Once eating is normal, then you get to apply these lessons to everything. Then you get to really let yourself seek joy and happiness and authenticity.

The point of the Fuck It Diet is to make eating a non-issue so you can start to live.

Welcome. This is where you’re meant to be.