Beliefs are everything. They literally shape our lives.
What you believe about food, money, love, life, happiness, and health… is affecting you right now. It is affecting you practically, subconsciously, and energetically, and your beliefs are being mirrored back to you through your reality.
That’s why it’s so easy to continue believing your beliefs, they are constantly being affirmed through your experiences. That isn’t because the beliefs are unequivocally true, but instead because they are your beliefs, and that’s how beliefs work.
We experience what we believe. Our beliefs shade, color, and create a lens through that we experience the world through.
So if your beliefs are negative, they are literally limiting you. It’s no small thing.
For instance, if you think that “sleep is hard to come by”, it will continue to be, through both your actions, your body’s reactions, and lots of other tinier energetic happenings.
If you believe “love is easy to find”, it will be… and probably already is. If you believe it is not easy to find, it won’t be, and it will continue to be hard to find through your own actions, your subconscious responses, and lots of other tinier energetic happenings.
This applies to everything, but if we’re gonna talk about your relationship to food… You most certainly have limiting beliefs about food, eating, and weight.
And those beliefs are affecting your life and your happiness.
I can’t trust my body
Nobody will take me seriously if I gain weight
Most food is bad for me
I gain weight easily
I’m a food addict
I should limit carbs
I can’t eat a lot
Being fat means __________
Being skinny will make me happy
All of those are limiting beliefs that lots of dieter pick up over time.
Here is a big reminder:
If you believe that skinny will make you happy, your entire life will begin to revolve around this belief. In fact, it probably already does. But because the belief is fundamentally untrue, (because NOTHING external makes us truly happy) chasing that high will not actually yield what you are looking for: happiness.
The negative beliefs you have about weight, fat, eating, and health are keeping you stuck in the “never good enough” cycle, and keeping you anxious around eating. Which biologically keeps you in the binge and repent cycle, and no amount of slow chewing and bath-time is going to snap you out of it.
So what to do? Start with awareness. Sit down and write out a list of all the negative, limiting beliefs about food and weight you can think of. The list will probably be really really long.
When the beliefs lurk in the dark corners of our subconscious, they can control you without you realizing it. Shine a light on them. Look them square in the eye. Say: I see you, you little fucker.
Awareness awareness awareness awareness. You are not your thoughts – but they sure as hell will try to control you.
But for now… awareness.
I also wrote an ebook about this.
And fuck it.