This is a call to action.

You know that famous Gandhi quote? Be the change you want to see in the world? Well I have heard that so many times that it has almost lost it’s meaning. yea Yea Yea YEA ok, yes. Ok be the change. I get it. La La La.

But, truly, if what we are seeking is a world where the media showcases people of all sizes, where eating disorders to not running rampant, where we are judged less by our bodies and more for our actions and minds, we really do have to be the ones to start.

If you want to stop being judged by other people, the first step is to stop doing it to yourself and others.

If you want the media to start vouching for bodies of all sizes, you have to, too.

If you want to be able to go to a gym to feel good and not feel judged and constricted, go with the intention of self- love and demand nothing less than respect for where you are now.

If you want a world where people don’t talk about and idealize “dropping 15 lbs for bikini season”, give it no energy. In fact: put out content and intentions  and conversations that support a different focus, something that supports your desire for the world.

Do things. Speak Up. Love yourself, Support others. Eat Ice Cream or __________(insert food). Go for walks with Music. Smile. Breathe.

Fuck It.

I have had a lot of difficulty navigating the waters of body image.

Body Image has been my number one biggest problem, even when I wasn’t aware of it. Even more than my obsession with health.

For almost the whole two years after I made the commitment to the Fuck It Diet, I would still get a look at myself in the reflection of a store window as I passed by and totally seize up in horror that I was “unimportant adjective” and not fitting into the “acceptable” box that I always had aspired to fit into.

Well, somehow, somehow somehow, after two years… my perfectionism has nearly fallen away. I just don’t really care anymore about being what I used to need to be.

Part of that has been time, confidence, time, confidence, affirming and affirming over and over again that I am more than what I look like and FUCK anybody else who tries to convince me otherwise. Part of it is writing this blog. Part of it is Body Positivity on instagram. Part of it may even have been some casual and sporadic energy work, simple DIY EFT (look it up) and part of it was just plain time and waiting to have mini epiphany after mini epiphany about the way I saw the world and myself.

YOU ARE NOT ON THIS EARTH TO BE SMALL.

None of us on this earth are here to be small and docile. We are here to be expansive and filled with light and life and enthusiasm and compassion, for ourselves and others.

So go and be that.

Stop trying to be small.

You can get a lot done when you are not obsessing about food. And you can actually forget about food if you are trying to get a lot done.

NOTE: There is NOTHING HELPFUL about trying to forget about food. Food is good. Food is important. Eating a lot is necessary for staying alive, body tissue, hormones, libido, mood, blood sugar, social lives, metabolism, ETC. All things I have said before. Never try to forget to eat. That is dumb. That is disordered.

However, the times, often, that I have actually forgotten to eat before I leave the house because I was busy worrying about my life and doing the things I cared about and wanted to do were nothing short of MIRACULOUS for the girl who used to think about her next allowed, legal snack every 45 seconds.

We are on this earth to do cool shit. To connect with people. To give our talents. To make a difference. To do what we are meant to do. To get caught up in the fun, exciting, inspiring, beautiful parts of life. And part of that is eating good food. But people who are obsessed with food live their lives through the cloudy, gray lens of food and weight and purity. And they don’t have the time or energy or passion for much anything else.

When weight or idealized and impossible perfect health becomes your main goal instead of: your business, your family, your hobbies, projects, fun, travel, etc- you have stopped living your life.

Free up energy for your life. Realize that food is a placeholder and will never bring you what you want.

Go be awesome.

Fuck It.