What I Have Learned (over 5 years)

  1. Amanda C says:

    You are amazing, and your fuckiteers love you!!

  2. Caitlin Calvaresi Mendoza says:

    This is amazing!!!

  3. Bob Baxter says:

    Hey, I’m for any kind of anti-trump diet/non diet!!

  4. Joey says:

    Beautifully put, Caroline. Thank you.

  5. Angela says:

    Love this so much… I turned 41 on December 1 2016 and thought the day before…I will go on a 30 day detox …blah blah…but I woke up on my birthday, and like you thought- what the fuck…I said to myself Angela…you are now 41 …fuck it…I am here…I am here…I deserve to be here in this body…this body that has put up with the Paleo, low carb , high fat, fasting, whole 30 diets , excessive exercising for the last 25 years- I am sorry my poor body . So instead of going on another 30 day eat clean bull shit diet…the birthday present I have given myself is to eat, live and enjoy the body I am in. Thank you ..it is because of your work that I discovered a few years ago that the fuck it seed was planted. It is now sprouting…and though I still have moments of…tomorrow you can cut out all sugar etc I gently scream in my head…Fuck It! Thank you…thank you…thank you xx

    • Ann says:

      Wow, Angela! I could have written your response!!! I just turned 40 this past August. I’ve been following TFID for the past year or so but I’m terrified of leaving my under eating/bingeing/over exercising ways. I’ve been doing this for 20 years now and I am tired of this self hatred. Your response has inspired me along with this bad ass article! FUCK IT!!! 🖕🏻💃

      • Chandra says:

        We are triplets. Turned 40 in October. Also ex-paleo ex-bikrams. I was at an ideal weight half a year ago that I had determinedly sustained for the last few years when I finally saw the scared mangled creature I was torturing inside. I started saying fuck it consciously. Today I looked at the tummy I’ve gained. Probably 20 pounds. I don’t think it’s pretty to look at. I wish I did. But the horror and panic I would have had before has vanished. I feel compassion for me. I feel how healing it has been to eat all the things whenever. Binging has almost left me. I’m ready to listen more closely to my cravings and intuition now. I still miss the control and the positive reinforcement I used to get for being thin. But I’m so much more at peace. I am loved and I love. So I’m going to keep going. Thanks for your stories.

  6. Annabelle says:

    Love each of your articles, thank you for everything !

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  8. Deb says:

    Wow and wow. Epic is an understatement! Brava!

  9. Lee says:

    I love and really really really appreciate your message. It is right on and the way out of food issues and body hate!!!

  10. Jo says:

    Love, love, love. Feminism, feminism, feminism. Compassion, compassion, compassion. Thank you, thank you, thank you.

  11. Aston says:

    I just had a thought about your post, because a) I had a similar thought when I hit 28 and b) I think about these things randomly…

    There is so much nonsense around food and weight that needs clearing from our brains, and it takes time. Man, I wish I’d known that 5 years ago in the middle of my food hell hole, that it wasn’t me and I wasn’t wrong. It is so inspiring to hear stories of people who go through the same thing and get out, alive and vibrant. Thanks for being here Caroline!

  12. lisa says:

    I’ve been following TFID for a couple of years now–thank you for your message and candor, Caroline! I’m happier and emotionally healthier about my body than I ever was. But I still have my moments. Even though every new year I vow to not make a stupid resolution to lose weight, blah, blah, blah, I still find myself occasionally seduced by the idea. And with my 42 birthday and a beach trip on the horizon, I’ve been feeling that pull of the old diet mentality quite strongly. Cut out sugar, dairy, gluten for just a little while. What could it hurt? Reset my body! Ack! So I realize it might take years for me to permanently abolish those old diet demons and body fears. I love this list, these truths, this mantra as it reminds me about why I said Fuck It in the first place and why there truly is no other way to find sustainable peace and happiness with my body and my life.